1) Take care of your appearance, which means go to the gym and make sure that even if you have a gut, that it's at least obvious that you're someone who cares about your health and appearance. People are naturally wary of dating those who don't appear to take any pride in their appearance and health.
2) Don't assume that having a vagina means having no brain. Just because most girls are breeding stock, doesn't mean that there aren't plenty of girls who aren't. Some of the ones that seem to be breeding stock may in fact have a lot of intelligence and you can bring it out of them. Been there, done that.
3) Broaden your horizons. Get away from the computer and learn something that you find to be fun and that is accessible to girls who aren't computer geeks. I picked up bass and guitar for fun and found that a lot of college girls will at least give you a shot if you're good. Personally I don't care much, since my gf can beat me on guitar and hold her own on bass.
4) Don't jump right into a relationship. If you have a chance to have a casual sexual relationship with a girl, that's helpful for when you're ready to settle down. Experience is something most guys really need.
and...
5) Look for someone who is your equal, but not in your area of expertise. You don't want to risk a game of one upmanship. I'm wary of dating girls in my major (C.S.) for that reason. My current girlfriend is a musician.
1) Take care of your appearance, which means go to the gym and make sure that even if you have a gut, that it's at least obvious that you're someone who cares about your health and appearance. People are naturally wary of dating those who don't appear to take any pride in their appearance and health.
2) Don't assume that having a vagina means having no brain. Just because most girls are breeding stock, doesn't mean that there aren't plenty of girls who aren't. Some of the ones that seem to be breeding sto
Take care of your appearance, which means go to the gym
Complete rubbish. I've never been to a gym
in my life, I make no attempt whatsoever to
lead a healthy lifestyle, and
empirical evidence seems to suggest I'm doing
pretty well so far (it's been nearly 15 years
since I was last single).
That's really good advice, but best of all IT WORKS. I'm a geek who couldn't get laid at college, but am now in my 30's and have had lasting relationships with some very good looking and intelligent women. I'm currently in a steady relationship with a very cute girl who's 13 years younger than me and has a degree in design.
Sometimes not having a girlfriend can be despairing, but work on yourself and someone great might come into your life.
You are not Mr. Party Duuuuude who makes women wet with his handsome, charming, irresponsible, spontaneous, manipulative, deceitful appeal.
You are Mr. Right. Or at least you will be when you have a steady job and lots of money.
Girls don't want sex with you. They want meaningless sex with Stiffler until they decide they want a husband. Then they want your wallet, your wisdom, your maturity, and your emotional supportiveness (which comes naturally from years of private deal-making... "If I had a girl, I'
Wrong. According to the Dating Design Patterns web site I'm:
Half Bad Boy Plus Protocol: Structuring one's appeal based on equal parts considerate gentlemanly attributes and "bad boy" behavior or facade.
So I'm "Mr Right" - sensitive, caring, well-paid, mature, but also a pagan biker with long hair, wears leathers and owns two motorbikes (not mid-life crisis, been biking for years). I'm the one who wants to go to the sleazy goth clubs!
"It is easier to fight for principles than to live up to them."
-- Alfred Adler
You know how to get a girl? (Score:5, Insightful)
2) Don't assume that having a vagina means having no brain. Just because most girls are breeding stock, doesn't mean that there aren't plenty of girls who aren't. Some of the ones that seem to be breeding stock may in fact have a lot of intelligence and you can bring it out of them. Been there, done that.
3) Broaden your horizons. Get away from the computer and learn something that you find to be fun and that is accessible to girls who aren't computer geeks. I picked up bass and guitar for fun and found that a lot of college girls will at least give you a shot if you're good. Personally I don't care much, since my gf can beat me on guitar and hold her own on bass.
4) Don't jump right into a relationship. If you have a chance to have a casual sexual relationship with a girl, that's helpful for when you're ready to settle down. Experience is something most guys really need.
and...
5) Look for someone who is your equal, but not in your area of expertise. You don't want to risk a game of one upmanship. I'm wary of dating girls in my major (C.S.) for that reason. My current girlfriend is a musician.
Re:You know how to get a girl? (Score:2)
Re:You know how to get a girl? (Score:2)
Complete rubbish. I've never been to a gym in my life, I make no attempt whatsoever to lead a healthy lifestyle, and empirical evidence seems to suggest I'm doing pretty well so far (it's been nearly 15 years since I was last single).
Re:You know how to get a girl? (Score:2)
Sometimes not having a girlfriend can be despairing, but work on yourself and someone great might come into your life.
Re:You know how to get a girl? (Score:1, Insightful)
Recipe for geek success with women: get older (Score:1, Insightful)
You are Mr. Right. Or at least you will be when you have a steady job and lots of money.
Girls don't want sex with you. They want meaningless sex with Stiffler until they decide they want a husband. Then they want your wallet, your wisdom, your maturity, and your emotional supportiveness (which comes naturally from years of private deal-making... "If I had a girl, I'
Re:Recipe for geek success with women: get older (Score:2)
Half Bad Boy Plus Protocol: Structuring one's appeal based on equal parts considerate gentlemanly attributes and "bad boy" behavior or facade.
So I'm "Mr Right" - sensitive, caring, well-paid, mature, but also a pagan biker with long hair, wears leathers and owns two motorbikes (not mid-life crisis, been biking for years). I'm the one who wants to go to the sleazy goth clubs!